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The book is excellent and the gentleman that wrote it is the best brother any sister could ever have. I LOVE YOU AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU. May God Richly Bless you and I pray the book will open the eyes of our lukewarm churches across the country. 12/12/2001 5:18 AM | Sherry Burns

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The first chapter was interesting and thought provoking. I can't wait to get the book and see how you address the other parts of christianity and churchs. Many of your thoughts are similar to my own, although not as well expressed as yours. I see my life and christianity, or lack of, reflected in your writing. Play ball, drop the puck, fall off a log, break a leg, and race car spelled backwards is "Race Car". yeah I left a few out. 12/12/2001 10:27 AM | Reggie Wade

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Congrats author on your publication! I love when good things happen to good people. Now give me some work! Just kidding. 12/12/2001 11:38 AM | T- Bone Tony Marshall

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Congratulations, Dave, on your publication. I look forward to reading it and hopefully will be able to see you some time down the road. It was always a pleasure working with you. 12/12/2001 1:54 PM | Pete Redpath

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Dave...Although I don’t know you, I do know you are a ray of light to the people who work in your field. I can wait to read this book! Thanks for this ministry…. 12/12/2001 6:34 PM | STEVEN HEINZ

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I'm still waiting to take you trout fishing in the Ga. Mtns. When I hear that you are directing a game that I am working, I know that it will be a joy. Wayne Barry 12/12/2001 9:58 PM | Wayne Barry

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Congratulations Dave, I'm looking forward to reading it. I missed working with you during football season. I'm sure you kept everyone amused and caffeinated. Hope you and the family have a good holiday. 12/13/2001 6:36 AM | Jill McDevitt

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Way to go Dave! Looking forward to reading your book. I know that you've worked really hard on it and that it's a labor of love. I'm also looking forward to reading the sequel: "When Bad Directors Happen to Good Shooters." or is it "When Meetings Outlast The Game". : ) 12/13/2001 7:14 AM | Steve Wiggins

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Happy Holidays Dave And Congrats on realizing a long held dream come true. 12/13/2001 11:33 AM | Sheldon M Smith

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Good luck Dave it's great when someone follows through. If you do go fishing with Wayne I know T-BONE and I could shoot it and sell it(Funniest home videos or most amazing police chases). Take Care. 12/13/2001 1:14 PM | Tim LeBoeuf

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I just finished the introduction and am very impressed. Sounds like a good start on getting my priorities in order. I've missed you Dave! 12/13/2001 3:01 PM | Bill Winn, Atlanta, Georgia

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Hi, Dave. I just finished the introduction and I will be buying the book today. I'm not good with expression, but, it just seems that you've always brought a "peace" to the directors chair that permeates the entire crew. Now, if we could just see you more often on JP2, or make that the JP "A" unit! 12/14/2001 7:59 AM | Dave Johnson

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Congratulations. I look forward to reading the book and sharing it with others. I missed you during football season but I was a good audience and you guys did a heck of a job. Have a great Christmas and New Year. Oh yeah, and get some rest so you can deal with Scooter on Jan. 5th. 12/20/2001 9:42 AM | Terry DeCarlis Charlotte NC

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Just finished the intro and will buy this book at first opportunity. As far as I'm concerned, your lack of seminary degree is your best qualification. The God I see in the Bible uses the regular guys of this world, not the "experts" who often become too wise in their own eyes. Good work! 12/21/2001 3:07 PM | Renée Johnson

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Dave, I just read the intro and first chapter. I can't wait to read the rest. Sometimes seeing ourselves or those like us in print can be quite uncomfortable, but necessary. I look forward to being awakened and inspired. See you back on the Big 12 tour in January! 12/22/2001 8:47 PM | Roger Crawford

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There is a can of Dr. Pepper waiting for you at Carlos O'Kelly's. The church is a community or it's nothing at all. Thanks for blessing us with the book. 12/26/2001 10:23 PM | David Rolph

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Dave, I'm Roger Crawford's sister. He told me he is sending us a copy of the book--I'm looking forward to it. If he recommends it, I know it will be good. 1/2/2002 1:45 PM | Alice Tucker

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After reading the manuscript, one (or two or three) chapters at a time, it is tremendously exciting to see your book as a BOOK! :) I have rarely enjoyed reading a book as much as I did yours, Dave, because there aren't too many that make me burst out laughing AND feed my mind too! God's richest blessings on you and Joni. 1/4/2002 6:25 AM | Sue Bohlin

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Congratulations, Dave! At Sue's recommendation, I joined the group of those who have read the intro and first chapter of your book and am going to purchase the book today to read the rest. All the best to you and Joni! 1/5/2002 7:34 AM | Mary Word

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Dave, I love your first chapter. Any Christian who can read the first chapter and not recognize at least something in him or herself had better take off the "blinders" quickly before he runs into something and hurts himself. I, too, proudly call myself a friend of Sue Bolin and will purchase your book. 1/7/2002 8:33 AM | Anita Baxter

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I read the first chapter. It was like having a 44 mag. pointed at my forehead and wondering when this thing was going to go off. It did half way through the first chapter. I saw myself exposed and ashamed. Dave it's very convicting and unsettling to find yourself in the crosshairs of truth. Thanks for stepping up to the plate and saying what we "christians" need to hear. 1/7/2002 11:53 AM | Jon Simkins

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Dave, Sue Bohlin passed the good word along about your book. Please give my greetings to your wife and kids....although, like ours they will say, "WHOOOO?" We are involved in work and ministry in the Kansas City area...what are you up to these days? Alice Bourdon 1/9/2002 12:02 PM | Alice Bourdon

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Hi there, Dave! Great site... I will definitely pass it on to friends and family! It was great to see you again, while you were visiting WaterBrook... Happy 2002 to you and your family! 1/9/2002 1:09 PM | Debbie Bower

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Dave: Read the intro and first chapter and I'm chomping at the bit to get the entire book ASAP. If you've seen those commercials for Golden Corral restaurants where the skillet to the back of the head brings home the obvious facts, just these snippets from your book have been the skillet to the back of my spiritual noggin. There are a lot of cracks in my spiritual foundation and your book is helping fix things and make things much stronger than before. You've been an inspiration to me all these years on the JP games in Arkansas and in the NBA and I look forward to seeing you soon. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family, as always. 1/9/2002 7:13 PM | Elven Lindblad

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Dave, read your book today. Very awesome, I liked it a whole bunch 1/9/2002 7:14 PM | Phillip

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I hope your book is as successfull as your ACC broadcasts this year. Actually, I hope it does better than that! Congrats! 1/14/2002 10:36 AM | Scott Snyder

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It has been a long time I have read a book straight through, but that is what I did with your book. Thanks for a thought provoking day. 1/14/2002 7:19 PM | Dick Allender, Sevrna Park Maryland

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Congratulations to you Dave! I fully intend on getting the real book soon and look forward to being challenged. That .com thing you added all by yourself. , great idea. I'd get a patent on it if I were you. 1/15/2002 8:53 PM | Scott Dailey, Arlington, Texas

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I've only read the intro. I can't wait for the rest. 1/16/2002 5:37 AM | Rebecca Adkins, Lexington KY

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My mom bought your book 5 days ago, she's read it, Im reading it now and plan to pass it on soon... 1/16/2002 8:56 AM | Nichole, California

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When I saw the title I knew it had to be an interesting book. Reading the first paragraph of the first chapter, I said to myself this man knows me. I will recomend this book has much as I can. God Bless you Mr. Burchett and keep em coming. 1/18/2002 10:57 AM | Ronnett Hemmings

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I just purchased the book last week, find the title very interesting. I went right to page 194 -- I am a big fan of Sam Cooke! 1/20/2002 6:48 AM | Bruce Kempf, Montana

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I bought the book while on a trip out of town last week and couldn't put it down. I finished the last three chapters on the plane on the way home, and got some interesting looks and comments from a couple of people sitting nearby. Perhaps they got hold of a copy. It was great, aside from your obvious bias about George W. Bush which, after reading the book, I am graciously willing to forgive (ha ha ha!, just kidding; see, I did learn something from it!). Seriously, I don't think I have read anything as thought provoking and action provoking in a long long time. Thank you. 1/21/2002 5:35 PM | Lee Saunders, Texas

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I stumbled accross your book at a christian book store here in Milwaukee. I skimmed a couple of chapters and realizied this guy is on to something. That was Saturday, today is Monday and I just finished the book. I loved it. When I got to chapter 8, I could'nt stop laughing. It really struck a nerve.:) God Bless You and keep up the good work. 1/21/2002 7:53 PM | James D. Smart, Milwaukee, Wisconsin

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My name is Ray Flowers from Dallas. I read the book last weekend. I then had Dave on my talk radio program two days later. WOW! The reception from listeners was terrific! We had more callers than we could handle. Dave is onto something here.....it's called "Clean up thine own house". You are touching people, Dave. Thanks and keep up the good work. 1/24/2002 3:53 PM | Ray Flowers, Dallas, Texas

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Hello! I heard to you talk on the Tim Kimmel Live show and you did an outstanding job. Thank you for writing on this subject, and I look forward to reading your book. May God richly bless you. 1/24/2002 7:35 PM | Kimberly, Phoenix, AZ

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Dave, I am in the misses of writing a devotional for our ladies retreat. See we want to say in the most loving way, what you say in the must humous way. We need to examine the inside of the cup not the only the out side. I told My pastor about this book, I am a very busy women, but every second of free time I get I read your book I want to finish, so I can pass it on to him, (maybe I'll tell him to buy his own).I hope you don't mind if I use some of your own qoutes (I'll give you the credit that way they cann't blame me)they just hit home. They prick and heal at the same time. 1/25/2002 9:59 AM | Regina, Sanford, Fl

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KUDOS to Dave! 1/29/2002 10:01 AM | Robin Keller

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Hi Dave, Thanks for your book When Bad Christians Happen to Good People. I just finished it and must say I was entertained, challenged and moved by it. Perhaps there were one or two places where I'd raise an eyebrow (e.g., on WWJD).I'm a pastor who will probably be using some of the excellent quotes and illustrations you gave. A couple of comments. On p 225 you mention William Wilberforce. He was not a bishop, but a layman.As you say, he was an MP. His third son, Samuel, became Bishop of Oxford in the Church of England. Also, he did not grow up under the ministry of John Newton, but was his friend. I also hope you'll let me brag a little as a Canadian. James Naismith, inventor of basketball, was born in Canada and graduated from Presbyterian College, Montreal(my alma mater)! Now back to my usual heavier reading of Calvin, Augustine and Peter Lombard (just kidding!). Thanks again for saying some things that needed to be said. In Christ, John Vaudry 2/1/2002 3:35 PM | John Vaudry vaudry@scsinternet.com

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Dave, it was great to talk with you yesterday, Amy stills smiles remembering back to the old days, hard to believe that was 17 years ago. Good luck with the book and our Texas Rangers, yes I am still a fan. My son Cole just doesn't understand how I can like teams like the Cowboys, Rangers and the Warriors.. there's a lot of suffering in our house at times. Hope we can catch up in person sometime, say hi to Joni. 2/12/2002 12:00 PM | Dan & Amy Becker

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Dave: This is fan mail from your author buddy Bruce Dreisbach. I'm reading your book as was bowled over by your insights on p.130ff. The whole notion of Christians' self- sabatoge being like blacks... Never heard it before and its a powerful insight. Thanks! ps About your website... your wife is a lot better looking than you. So is your dog. Good idea to add them to the site. 2/17/2002 8:15 PM | Bruce Roberts Dreisbach

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Dave: While I was looking at books at the church bookstore, your book jumped out of a display holder and onto the floor in front of another man looking at books (no one had touched it). I felt nudged that it might be the book I needed to read, and asked what the title was. I laughed with joy. Thanks for sharing! It helped heal those bits of bitterness hiding in the corners of my heart, and helped me to get up the courage to get back to church. Thanks! 2/18/2002 4:41 PM | Rochelle

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This book brings me to tears. My wife has been so, so hurt by "bad christians" that she is now a devout atheist. The "christian" community has become the reason for so much pain, intolerance, selfishness, greed, moral decay, hatred, and bigotry in the world today. Christianity has become the "Darth Vader", the "dark side" of society. I am part of the problem. It's my outer man I fight to allow my inner man to live. Thanks for the spiritual help to become the man Christ intended me to be. 2/20/2002 9:22 AM | Greg

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mr. dave, i am passing along to others to read your book when bad christians happen to good people.i found it very true in many churches no matter what denomination.i attended a promise keepers meeting and one of the speakers there tony evans i beleive said that the largest group of biggots were the church goers.the walls of some churches need to be torn down.they feel comfortable with their own kind and own kind only.if you are not like them to the letter they will not have anything to do with you.your book addressed what had to be addressed.keep up the good work. mike 2/22/2002 12:32 PM | mike springer springmj2@yahoo.com

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I am almost finished with your book and loving every minute of it. I have laughed and cringed simultaneously through most of it. Thanks for being real. 2/24/2002 12:21 AM | Frank E. Short fshort3323@aol.com

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:) Okay, so ... 'just found your website. 'Haven't "surfed" through it, as yet. O, but I will. Just wanted to thank you for your love of Christ, and your committment to the cause ... but especially for your understanding of "grace". :) My thanks to your wife, as well. Surely she must be your second best source of encouragement. (Christ being first, of course.) Surely you have given me far more credit than I deserve. Simply remember me (our radio conversation) fondly; and I shall forever keep you and yours in my prayers. Thank you, Dave. God be with you, and yours, always. 2/26/2002 6:40 PM | Carolyn Ratthy

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I finally found someone who knows what I go through each day. I work in a Christian Bookstore and only you would understand the behavior I see from customers (brothers and sisters in Christ). Just a month before your book came out my husband and I were talking about behavior of customers in the Christian marketplace. I could tell so many hair raising stories (material for a sequel!), but I'll spare you the details. Anyway, I told him I would love to write a book and give it to every customer. He said if I was going to tell about other Christians poor behavior than I would have to start with myself. (Ouch!) And then came your book...thank you 10 times over. I did a book report on your book that goes into a customer resource at our store. I have recommended your book to many people; i wont give up my copy! Again THANK YOU! 3/2/2002 2:35 PM | Cheryl, Minnesota "nice"

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In the name of God, the most compassionate, the most merciful. Dave, I really enjoyed reading your book. It might suprise you to learn that I am a practicing Muslim, but I listen to Chrisitan radio to get ideas for our own communities. You face the same problems that we do, and in fact, Muslims and Christians have more in common than they have differnces. (E.g. we both Believe in the Virgin Mary, and we both acknowledge Jesus as sent by God to deliver a message) One of the points that you made in your book was that people have taken verses out of context in the Bible to suit their own purposes and justify their own actions, and we face the same problem in the Muslim community. You also stated that we as humans quickly condemn those who dont share our ideas, thoughts and beliefs, and we make an effort to force our ideas and beliefs on others without understanding their ideas and beliefs. This problem exists at large in all communities, be they Christian, or be they Muslim, or be they any other community. People dont look at the bigger picture. Thank you. Ali from New Jersey United Muslims Organization 3/5/2002 8:06 AM | Ali from New Jersey

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I came across your book in the library yesterday and started reading it this morning. Since the dozens of little yellow sticky notes are becoming a nuisance - (it's not my book so I can't highlight or mark the gems on the pages) - I will be going online to buy it. I will also be buying as many copies of this little treasure as I can afford and then parceling them out to friends, who I know will devour it as I have. Christmas gifts will be pretty well covered this year, too. And I will tell my remaining acquaintances to run, not walk, to the bookstore and buy their own copy. Thank you for taking on the challenge - and for staying hungry to speak the truth. 3/13/2002 7:48 PM | DLHarner

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This has got to the best book title I've seen in years. 3/14/2002 6:48 PM | Richard Davis, New Zealand

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My spouse picked up your book at Borders because it was on teh tables near the door. I started to read it planning to be very annoyed with this person I was certain was going to point out that Christains are hypocrites who don't care about anyone else and that you would not so subtly suggest that we just get along with others. So waiting to start ranting at this "there are many ways why are you people so special" author I began reading your book. That was last evening. Within the first two pages i realized 1) I probaly was going to agree with you and 2) that you are really going to make alot of other people furious. My spouse made me put your book down so we could go to the theater. This morning he suggested you wouldn't want me to skip Sunday school or church to finish the book. As soon as we returned from lunch( we're Baptist --- church really doesn't end until you've had lunch with another family or five)I was fianlly able to make them all leave me alone and finish the book. THANK YOU. I am ordering copies for several friends Christian and non believers alike. Your humor, honesty and straight forward approach really put into words the importance of acting on our beliefs. 3/17/2002 3:43 PM | Judy Hanthorn, Mableton, GA

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I'm having to fight my husband for your book since you gave it to us. I've shared it with the gal I teach with, who was the leader in the church split that about kill my hubby and me 3 years ago. Your visit was so very timely - my only suggestion to you is to move to Pagosa, so we can give you more research material. It was wonderful catching up on old times - We pray God will allow our paths to cross many more times in the near future. Be assured of our prayers. 3/17/2002 9:34 PM | Lynell

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I really enjoyed your website and the first chapter of your book. You have hit the nail on the head about a lot of churches and the way "Good Christians" think. I've also seen how 1 bad apple can slowly spoil the rest. 3/20/2002 10:35 PM | Dean Fogg Lex, KY. dfoggtv@aol.com

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I just picked up a copy of your book today at lunch. I have already read the first chapter and could not believe what I read. It was if you had read my mind. I have been struggling with the same issues that you addressed in chapter one, but have been unable to verbalize the inadiquacy that I have feeling in my Christian life. I can't wait to get home tonight and read some more. Thank you for writing this book. 3/26/2002 3:54 PM | Jack Edwards, Cartersville, Ga.

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Dave - I finished reading your book a few days ago. I work in a christian bookstore, and we had received one as a special order for a friend of mine. I told him it was in, but he couldn't pick it up untill I had read it. I have since recommended it to a number of customers who are dealing with issues of painful encounters with Christians who are a bit too "human." I highly recommend this book not only for the wounded (almost everybody), but also for those who are beginning to realize that they have done some wounding themselves (again, almost everybody). Your use of humor helps greatly to disarm those who react defensively, but you do not let us rest easy when we should be ashamed of ourselves. Thanks for giving us (the Christian Community) another useful tool to examine ourselves and prayerfully ponder the consequences of our sometimes thoughtless and offensive behaviors and attitudes. (By the way - John did get his book - I sold it to him at half price.) 3/29/2002 1:00 AM | J L Miller - Chico CA

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Dear Dave, I'll email you as well. I'm at Chapter 3 already and absolutley love the book!!! 4/2/2002 11:41 PM | Carol Porter Kusama

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Dave, I am not only done with part one, and I am encouraged by your faith, humility, and yet your boldness to work for the Lord. God is surely working through your writing, and I'm thankful that you are letting Him. This book is an answered prayer so far, and while I know that it is not the book, not you, but God that is giving, I am thankful for your faithfullness in serving. I'm sure that you are keeping this in mind, I only remind you as a loving brother in Christ: with all the encouragement surrounding you, don't forget the struggle, don't forget the glory. God bless you and guide you. 4/4/2002 2:18 PM | Ryan, Iowa

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After reading what others have written here - I find it hard to say something that hasn't already been said. I guess I can say AMEN to most of the comments on how much your book has touched my mind and spirit. I have been a self proclaimed Agnostic for many years. I have a unique definition for my kind of Agnostic. To me Christian equaled believing in Christ. Athiest equaled not belieiving in Christ. Agnostic equaled not caring enough to believe or not believe. I felt indifference to Christ. Through your book, I feel like I can heal the wounds from Christians who have helped me become indifferent. I feel like I can finally have a relationship with Him again and open my heart and spirit to His love and guidance. I have also had to look at my own actions and realize that I can't blame others for my feelings. I have some responsibility for those feeling too. OUCH! I am making that healing journey though, and I thank you for helping to light the pathway so I could restart my walk with Christ. I pray I will remember your words and keep my actions representative of my own words and beliefs. Thank you again and may God richly bless you and your family. 4/8/2002 2:26 PM | Debi Standing - Minnesota

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Dave Thank you for the note in your book and the scripture(col.3:12-17) Both have made me more aware of the needs in our daily walk with Christ. I am glad you are Brad's friend. Brad has always been a joy in our lives, however no child is perfect. We are very proud of Brad and his family. We believe God is active there. John A. Sheldon 4/13/2002 5:10 AM | John A. Sheldon

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Very good book. As a pastor, it's great to read something that affirms what I already know to be true and have been preaching for several years. 4/15/2002 11:09 AM | Pastor Sam Bundy

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Hey Dave, We had a baby girl born with a facial abnornality ( tumors)that covered the entire right side of her face. Her eye was swollen shut and much more. You're right that Jesus would not have rejected her. He showed us in her the blessing, the beauty, and His amazing Fatherheart. 4/15/2002 12:27 PM | RoseMarie & Drew Bohs

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Amen brother! Tell it like it is! We all need to re-evaluate just what we as Christians are doing with our time here and how we treat everyone while we are waiting for our Lord. Time is too short. We need to wake up and really learn what it means to "take up the cross" and then get busy doing it! 4/16/2002 4:39 PM | Irma MacLeod

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I enjoyed your book very much. This book makes me think about actions as a Christian. Also, I am suggesting that the leaders of our church read this book 4/17/2002 12:19 PM | Rev. Bob Brown

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Hi Dave, Ya know, I've got to admit, your a pretty interesting and amazin guy! Read the 1st chapter of your book here on your website and it's pretty interesting, even to a semi-heathen like me. Looks like I might just have to break down and buy a copy. Even if I don't like it, (doubtful) atleast I can say that I did and shame the rest of the Bay Area guys/gals into supporting the cause! Cherish working with you my friend. It's truly a joy! Your video brother, Rob 4/21/2002 1:22 AM | Rob Levy

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Dave, thanks for your book. I look forward to reading it the second and third time also. A book that every Christian should own and take to heart. Thank you! Thank you! 4/22/2002 11:33 PM | Ronnie, Mississippi

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Thank you so much for your book. I hope you come out with more of the same. We've been struggling so with a relationship and over the years have simply prayed, "God, fix what's broken." The other day while glancing through my recent CBD copy, I noticed your book title, and thought, "I wonder if they think of us as "bad Chrisians", or "good people." I just had to get the book to see. Reading it has helped us so much in seeing their side of this on-going conflict. God bless you and keep you. 4/24/2002 10:08 AM | name withheld

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Found your book in the Tattered Cover Bookstore while looking for another book (can't even remember what THAT one was...now see what you've done?). Loved the title, read the back and was hooked. In one trip back east, the book title brought up conversations on each of my flights. On my Chicago to Rochester flight, the woman I spoke to was a professor at a Christian college who decided she'd buy a copy and most likely assign it to her freshman seminar class, after I read her several hilarious and thought-provoking excerpts. I think this book may reach my siblings who have all been turned off from the faith by the church or Christians who "did them wrong." I can't thank you enough for writing it exactly as you did. I love it!! God bless you. 4/24/2002 11:50 AM | Jeanne Markham - Denver, CO

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What a fantastic read!!! I have seen so many arguments on an online religion debate board, and a lot of the anti-Christian comments have come from people who were indeed hurt by the not-so-Christlike behaviors of Christians. I'm recommending it to all the people who post there and hope it will make a difference. Your book was wonderfully well-written and very timely. Keep writing! 4/26/2002 2:46 PM | Shannon--Chicagoland

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I did enjoy reading your book. I gauge a good book on not wanting to put it down, I found myself not wanting to put it down until I finished it. I am not an overly religious person as you know, but I raised a child that has God in his heart and has become a Minister (go figure). You raised issues that turned me from the church many years ago, maybe one of these days I will get back, but for now I will use Todd as my direct line. I compare my beliefs to those of the drunk and the member of A.A., the drunk doesn’t have to go to meetings. I’m a believer, I just don’t go to meetings. Again, I did enjoy the book and I am now waiting for the sequel. 4/30/2002 3:51 PM | MIKE WALL

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I'm a United Methodist layman in Little Rock and have just begun studying your book as a source for an adult Sunday School Class. I can say from reading about half of the book -in one sitting - that you have framed what so many have wanted to say and you say it in a most direct way. Congratulations. I'm sure I'll have more response after completing the study. 5/5/2002 9:45 AM | Dr. Charles D. Watson

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Your book is one that ALL Christians need to read. I think it will hit every one of us right between the eyes in one area or another. I just pray that we will all do something about the area that it hit us in!!!Please don't let this be the last book that you write to us, we need more authors like you, who don't mind telling it like it is, whether we like it or not!!! 5/5/2002 1:40 PM | Steve Edwards

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Mr Burchett, I have known you nearly 20 years and I never knew that you were a Christian. But I did know that you were a devout, honest, and graceful man who cherished his wife,children, and double tall lattes. You made me laugh (as usual), and cry, and think. The marks of a good read. I wish you the best of luck in spreading this wonderful message. Peace 5/6/2002 6:02 PM | Rick Jones

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Dear Dave, Got your book one week ago, finished and passing it on to my wife. I pastor in Siloam Springs, AR, (25 miles west of Fayetteville. Fantastic! Fresh perspective, with boldness, conviction, compassion and insight. FROM THE PEW. Laity need to hear from someone who sits with them, or from someone they "used" to sit with. Pastors need to hear from the pew also. I'll be using your material in preaching/teaching opportunities. Our town is in "Guinness Book of Records" as having more churches per population than any others (thats not a compliment given that we don't have any greater percentage of people in church than other "Bible-belt" communities. Sadly, church growth is coming at the expense of other congregations (more sheep stealing/gate closing behind wandering sheep than sheep feeding). I have amusingly noted that new churches resulting from a split often have the names "unity, harmony or fellowship" in their titles. We are working through some inflicted hurts at our church. Pray for all to be healed as well as be healers. Truly "being et' by a lion may be better than being et' by a people." If your are ever in our area, would love to visit with you. 5/9/2002 2:09 PM | Michael & Georgianna, Arkansas

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Dear Dave, Thank you for a truely wonderful and divinely inspired book. It has truely touched my life. I absolutely respect your openess and honesty. I will never be the same. PRAISE BE TO GOD THE FATHER AND OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST!!! My prayers are with you and your family always. Thanks again. P.S I love you with the Love of JESUS brother. GOD BLESS!! 5/12/2002 11:32 PM | Joel Taylor

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Hi. I have got to say that your book, "When Bad Christians Happen to Good People" has got to be the best book that I have ever read. Thank you so much for being real and honest. 5/23/2002 8:29 PM | Jennifer Alwine

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Dave, Like many others, I appreciate the content and style of your book. I appreciate the fact that while you tell the truth, you don't have malicious intent and do humbly encourage Christ-taught compassion. The Pharisee issues in the church are an element of the whole struggle of "churchianity" versus following Jesus' life lead. I am grateful for the tired and saddened message you were able to convey about the more flagrant falls of other believers and/or pretenders. My non-believing friends howl when I tell the the title of the book I was reading. That is actually helpful as I then got to read them portions aloud. If I had a spare hundred bucks I would be passing these out all over town. But God knows who needs these words spoken into their soul. Thank you for being His vessel. Peace, Catherine Amber Eugene, OR 5/27/2002 11:58 PM | Catherine Amber

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Dave, I want you to know how proud and honored I am that God blessed me with a son like you. I thank God and you for your book and the strong message it sends to the world. In Mark 4-22 Jesus said "If you have ears listen". 5/28/2002 8:10 PM | Paul Burchett

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Your book was recommended to me by friend, Bill Jones...thanks for your words. 5/29/2002 7:09 PM | Randy Sachs

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Dave, thanks again for your honest words that help keep me honest as a Christian 5/30/2002 4:45 PM | Peter Boumgarden

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Your book has been a real boost to me and helped me see that there are other Christians who have similar experiences and frustrations with Christians and church. But more importantly, it has been an encouragement to address some of my own issues as well as try to pull together a number of books and their thoughts into a comprehensive worldview with the Bible as its foundation. Keep up the good work. 6/4/2002 10:12 PM | John Troxell Jr.

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As a parent who very recently has tried to seek help for my mentally-ill daughter only to be treated with cruelty/sanctimony by a local church (which never once reached out to help us) and who accidentally received an email requesting prayer for my family (in a very gossipy tone) stating my daughter was "full of the devil"...it's a wonder I'm still walking with the Lord. You've addressed things in a humorous and loving manner that have needed addressing in the church for a long time. I wish I could buy numerous copies of this book to send to both my saved and unsaved friends. (Need to send copies to the above-mentioned "Christians", too.) Thanks for writing a great book! P.S. My husband just got saved this last week. I know it has nothing to do with the book, but I just wanted to share.:) 6/9/2002 2:09 AM | Teresa Gutermuth

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What a innovative website - with such a memorable url. Dave, blessings upon you! May this book continue to bless and minister countless folks who have been harmed and/or damaged by the "bad" saints among us ...that would be all of us, eh? warmly, your publisher! 6/11/2002 12:21 PM | Don Pape

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Thanks, Dave, for being authentic. Such a rare find among Christian writers today. And by the way, if you get to Heaven before I do tell Katie I look forward to meeting her. 6/11/2002 7:19 PM | Bill Fisher, Pastor

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Mr. Burchett, Just read page 140 where you wrote you would probably hear from the faction that will sneer more than any other group. I DON'T THINK SO!!! I have truly loved your book and cannot stop saying to my friends "I love this book, you have to read it." Your book was given to me by a friend because of some pain inflicted by a church and some self proclaiming "Good Christians." The book is not only helping me heal but, more importantly, it is making me look inward to clean up the toxic waste in MY backyard. Thank you very much for putting into words what many of us obviously need to hear. May the LOrd bless you and yours. 6/12/2002 10:46 PM | Leslie Redwine

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I originally went to the bookstore to look for another book and when I saw the title of your book it hooked me in. I ended up purchasing it instead of the other book! I have read 3/4 of the way through and am very impressed with your words that act as a healing balm and a wake up call to my heart. My husband and I left our church after 5 years of guilt ridden manipulation. We allowed ourselves to be used alright! Our son, who has a disablity, was excluded and singled out within that church. Currently we do not go to church but are attempting to have God heal our hurt inflicted upon us and the hurt we have inflicted! Thanks for a "tell it like it is in love" book, its overdue! 6/17/2002 7:41 AM | Jean Richard

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Dave. I want to meet you someday. Your book is a masterpiece. It's the first book since THE CASE FOR CHRIST (and that is saying a lot) that made me want to tell everyone I know that I read it and loved it. I can't stop talking about it to people and have already rallied up 5 other people who are promising me to read it. What a breath of fresh air! Your sarcasm, humor, honesty and compassion bled through the pages. When you're a guy like myself and a book brings you to tears (the part when you reveal why Katie was placed in your life) you know that it's something special. Especially considering it's all true! Ever since finishing this book, some of my friends' friends have been asking, "Why is he so happy all the time?" I honestly believe that joy that I have is from Christ. But I also believe that God used you Dave, to reveal it as being possible to believe in and live out. Thank you for making my 13 year-old faith (since I was 6) come alive again. If you are ever around Taylor University in the school year, please come look me up. You made me laugh so much! And yes, I do believe that "cynicism" is a spiritual gift. (sorry if that is spelled wrong though--lol) 6/22/2002 9:30 PM | Neville Kiser, Taylor University student

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Dave...I can't wait for your next book. 6/24/2002 2:35 PM | Johnathan D. Evans

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I just finished reading When Bad Christians Happen to Good People, I loved every word! It's very true,honest and enjoyable reading. I look forward to your next book. The part about Katie's smile makes me cry everytime I read it, God really did bless you with her. Thanks for your honesty. 6/28/2002 8:37 PM | Christine Montgomery

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Hi Mr. Burchett, I just started reading your book and I think it is great and so to the point. The funny thing is I thought I was alone with these struggles, but I guess we all feel that way. I know it will help me with my son and his negative feelings about Christian. Praise God for the convictions of His Truth and thank you for this book. 7/2/2002 9:06 AM | Diane Penza; dpenza58@yahoo.com

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Dave, We just wrapped up our conversation together on the cell phone while you were at the Rangers game. I don't know when you'll see this, but I wanted you to know again how much I enjoyed the book. It has been a tremendous help to me spiritually and professionally. When you do make your way to Nashville, consider the lunch appointment a done deal. _____________________________________________________ Doug Hannah, Program Director 88.7 WAY-FM, Nashville 1012 McEwen Drive, Franklin, TN 37067 615-261-9293 x13 801-858-9731 (direct fax) doug@wayfm.com 7/2/2002 8:07 PM | Doug Hannah

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I bought your book recently, and it's great! You did an awesome job and your humorous lines kept me turning pages for more. You kept hitting the nail on the head with all the issues and after I was finished reading the book, it gave me a passion to witness again. Are you planning on writing another? 7/3/2002 9:57 PM | Ashlie Sandoval

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A Note from Dave for Ashlie (see below) and anyone else who is interested....Yes I am in the process of writing a second book. If you are interested in being notified please go to the home page and let me know through the e-mail link. And thanks to all of you for the kind words and encouragement. Blessings and grace! 7/3/2002 11:58 PM | Dave Burchett

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What a GREAT book!!! I have just checked it out of our library and can't put it down . . . . we all have these experiences I am sure and I am seemingly daily confronted with these situations (unfortunately I am afraid that I have been on the 'giving' end more often than I would like to admit and for sure on the 'receiving' end what seems to be 'constantly'!!! Thank you for writing this soul searching and thought provoking "real life" experience!!! 7/4/2002 1:42 PM | John Wesley Dowling, New Orleans (jdowlingjr@earthlink.net)

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I have desperately needed an "official" description of my life's experiences with the church. Being a "devout" protestant preacher's kid (albeit an adult kid), it's been very difficult relating to others in a comprehensible manner. Your book helped to formulate many of my own feelings, emotions, and shortcomings. My only hope is to take the things I've learned & you've helped to put into words to do the work that the Lord has been laying on my heart to do for quite some time. Thank you for stepping out on a limb and sharing these very poignant thoughts...I only wish there was a way to get all Christians, and non-Christians, to read some of your statements, let alone the whole book (especially some deacons and board chairs I have known)! 7/8/2002 4:50 PM | Kathy Whipple

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Good Morning! Heard you on our local 106.5 The Promise Radio station today and decided to buy your book!!! Looking forward to reading it!! God Bless You! 7/10/2002 9:45 AM | Debbie Shearer

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We have been discussing relationships in our Sunday School class and your book just follows this theme. Your first chapter has definitely caught my attention on reading more. 7/13/2002 7:35 AM | Teri Radosti

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I don't know one Christian (myself CERTAINLY included) who doesn't need to read and heed at least several of the thought-provoking observations and admonitions in your book. I had to bandage a few gored oxen when I'd finished, but I'm buying 5 lending copies at Christianbook.com. I gave the copy I've just finished to the president of my congregation with recommendations that it be highly recommended reading for every member of our church. I hope we'll use it as the basis for an adult Sunday school series. Do you have any plans to write a leader's guide (a la Colson and Pearcey's How Now Shall We Live?)? 7/14/2002 4:12 PM | Mark Waldeland

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Note from Dave in response to Mark (see below)... I am currently working on a leader's guide (a fairly simple version) that I plan to make available for download free of charge. It seems to me that if you buy the book you shouldn't have to spend more money on another volume. I guess that is why I probably won't retire from this writing business. I hope to have the guide online and ready to download soon. Blessings! 7/14/2002 9:47 PM | Dave Burchett

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I am seventeen years old, and after spotting the thought-provoking title of your book, "When Bad Christians Happen To Good People," on my father's coffee table, I decided to take a glance. I read your introduction, and immediately knew that reading the book would mean reevaluating myself, and my "Christian" walk. I layed it neatly back in it's place, and thought nothing more of it. Now my father is away counseling at Church Camp, and I came across your book again, this time laying on the couch. So I swiped the book to "page" through and read what I was comfortable with. That was two days ago, and I am now finished with, and forever changed by your work. Everything from WJSHTOT? to "CSL" hit home with me, and made me realize (in the best possible way) how much of a "bad Christian" I have been lately. Your book was an emotional roller coaster ride for me. I laughed, I cried, I hated you, I loved you, and I became thirsty for Christ's love and a deeper knowledge to spread His eternal blessing to others. My dad is reading the book bit by bit, with a group at his Church doing a series over it. I suggest he read it as much as he can, whenever he can, so he can start working on himself and then on others! I plan on recommending this book to everyone that will listen to me. Thank you for being so blunt, dragging me out of my "comfort bunker," and opening my eyes, as well as the eyes of many other blind Christians. God Bless you! Fly With Christ! 7/17/2002 10:36 PM | Kadi Mullins, Texas

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I just finished the book last night and all I can say is WOW! I appreciated the humor and the direct approach that the book offered. I felt myself convicted on many counts, but I didn't feel "preached" at (make sense?). Definitely a book I will read again soon just to take notes and create action points in my life. This book will go on my re-read shelf right next to Yancy's "What's So Amazing About Grace". I will be recommending this book to my brothers and sisters in Christ. 7/30/2002 10:35 AM | Wayne McCoy, Washington

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I just finished reading your book. It really hit home in so many ways. I know that I am going to have to reread it several times. I enjoyed the humor, but it wasn't just the humor that kept me turning the pages. What you wrote spoke to my heart. Thanks. 7/30/2002 9:08 PM | Belinda Wilson, Ohio

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Dear Mr. Burchett: My brother-in-law has recently been hit by a Bad Christian. Happened to be the pastor of a church he had been attending for awhile. He was learning more about God from this pastor than he ever has from anyone. And this pastor was secretly molesting many women and teenage girls in his office during counseling sessions. He was a master manipulator. Charges were brought against him, and he fled to another state and city....To Repent? No, to start another church. I am sending my brother-in-law a copy of your book. He is bitter, and his relationship with the Lord is suffering loss right now. Thank you for writing your book. Along with prayer, I hope your book brings healing to him and leads him to restore his relationship with Jesus Christ. And after reading your book, my heart cry is, "PLEASE Lord, DON'T make me laugh, DON'T make me cry; PLEASE Lord, CHANGE me". In His Love & Mine, 8/2/2002 1:47 AM | Roberta J Long - Tulsa, Oklahoma

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Dave, my name is Larry Davies. I'm a United Methodist Minister, former car salesman and all around unusual preacher. I just wanted to tell you that I'm 3/4 of the way through your book and I'm so impressed with your down-to-earth theology that I'm considering getting your book in quantity for my staff and leaders. We try very hard to not be the church you model so successfully in your book. Thank you for giving me even more reasons to beware. I write a weekly column that does much of what you do. You can check out my own web site at www.sowingseedsoffaith.com and if those writings can help your ministry in any way, please let me know. Since I have my own book, "Breaking the Peanut Butter Habit: Following God's Recipe for a Better Life" I would like to figure out a way to work out a quantity purchase a swap or even have you come to Lynchburg as a guest. I just want you to know we are interested and appreciate your writing. Thank you for boldly pointing out our flaws. God bless. Larry 8/2/2002 9:25 AM | Larry Davies

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My wife and I could write a book on the experiences we have encountered in the last 5 years with bad Christians. But you realize their is a lot of woundedness out there and many need the loving touch of the Saviour. But oh how hard it is to give grace and mercy when you have been so deeply hurt by those who name the name of Jesus. 8/5/2002 8:23 PM | Jim and Karen Kingma/Stonegate Sabbatical Ministries/Grand Rapid

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I just read your book that I borrowed from the library. It has made me realize what is really important in life- to love and to care about others. It has also made me a little upset with myself for being maybe too judgemental with some people who are hostile with Christians, and not loving them more. The Holy Spirit along with your book has made me realize what really matters in life-showing love and not hate towards Christians who have been hurt by other Christians before and for non-believers that didn't get an accurate representation of Christ because of our (yours and mine and other Christians) hypocrisy.Thank you for making that clear to me. God bless you and your family forever and always! :) 8/6/2002 6:57 PM | Patricia

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I was drawn to your website from sowing seeds ministry. God led me here because I have been going through the same things and today our church is in real trouble. After reading the intro and 1st chapter, I can't wait to get the rest of the book. Thank you and God Bless You! 8/7/2002 7:22 AM | Renee Ewing

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Thanks for the links. Thanks for sharing. Enjoyed! 8/7/2002 1:05 PM | Alene Eddy

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I truly have learned and have grown as a Christian from reading your book. I have recommended it to my friends. It really gets you thinking about your every day lifestyle and if you are doing God's will or your own. Thank you so much for touching my heart and affecting my way of life. Is there a Jerry Bruckheimer movie on this book coming out soon? Just kidding. 8/7/2002 9:24 PM | Brian Wood

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I can't wait to read your book. My last "church family", including the pastor, turned their back on me when my husband filed for a divorce. When we were at court the entire church would show up to intimidate me and my mother (who would come with me to court). I had suffered from severe depression when I was married and the only thing I received from my church was gossip. I praise God that He returned my son to me and I won custody. My son is still having behavioral problems from this ordeal but he is definately improving. The Lord has led me to a wonderful new church that has supported and prayed for me through this. 8/9/2002 8:14 AM | Michelle Corrao Buchheit

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I heard you speak on the Fish this am so couldn't wait to get to work to check out your website. I forwarded the address to my home so I can read the introduction and chapter one tonight. I am intrigued by what I have heard so far and can't wait to hear "the rest of the story"! 8/9/2002 9:47 AM | Sue Epling

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I am looking forward to reading your book ~ I heard part of your radio interview today on 95.5 The Fish. God Bless! 8/9/2002 10:03 AM | Krystie Hite ~ Ohio

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Dave, the story in your hometown paper, the Chillicothe Gazette, will appear Sunday, Aug. 11. It should be on the Web as well, www.ChillicotheGazette.com. On a personal note, the book is full of amazing insight and well-written. 8/9/2002 11:06 AM | Mike Throne

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I totally agree with your "theme" and I am looking forward to reading your book. Thank you for have the courage to write it. 8/9/2002 12:35 PM | DEANNA HICKS

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I heard you speak this morning on 95.5 in Cleveland, OH. Your words touched me. I was asked by my pastor to fill in this Sunday and you have been my inspiration. We are a house church and are always examining the "always been done" versus the "Best way". We strive to reconnect to the church of the 1st century and to the roots of Christianity. May God continue to bless you and your ministry. 8/9/2002 9:04 PM | Lynn Tuck

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I attend the Park East Church of Christ here in Denver, CO. I was at the library one day the the title of your book caught my eye. This led me to check the book out at the library and begin reading intensively. I think this is the kind of book that Christians especially need to pay attention to. I emplore all Christians to read this book and do a self-examination of their lives. I honestly hope that yourself and other Christian authors write more books like these that "tell it like it is." May God bless you and your family. 8/10/2002 1:23 PM | Onaga Thomas

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I read an article in our hometown paper on line- Chillicothe Gazette. I am looking forward to checking out your book. It is so true that some Christians act more like the devil than Jesus. 8/11/2002 2:10 PM | Ginny Gomez

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Dave... What a breath of fresh air. I too am a Christian and work in the TV business. And as a matter of fact I was driving home after doing a Ray's vs Chicago White Sox game in St. Pete, FL and heard your testimony on MBN (WKES). Wow, thank you for setting a Christian example in a very non-christian environment. I'm looking forward to reading your book and also to meeting you when the Rangers come to Tampa, FL. May GOD continue to bless you and guide you. 8/11/2002 2:27 PM | Stan Rhoads

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Dave, I heard your interview with Dan and Robin on 95.5 The Fish. Couldn't wait to visit your site and now am anxious to get my hands on your book! I'm sure I'll be sharing it with many friends and loved ones. God Bless 8/11/2002 6:29 PM | Vickie Fortney

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Hi Dave, It's Jennifer from the Rangers/Tigers game in DET. When you showed me the pic of your retreiver, Charlie, on your website I noticed a heading that caught my attention. Then I recalled you saying to someone that they should check out your website cuz you had finished your book. Well here it is Sunday after the Orioles/Tigers game and curiosity has gotten the best of me. I have enjoyed reading the 1st chapter. From what I've seen thus far, you've done a wonderful job and have reinterated many thoughts I have had myself regarding the church and the way in which we all sometimes behave. Can't wait to see what else you have in store. Looks like it's reaching a lot of people. That's a good thing. Take Care and it was a pleasure working with your crew. 8/11/2002 7:24 PM | Jennifer Griffin - DET

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Dear Dave, AWESOME AWESOME.. this book of yours hits the nail right on the head. I am a full time church worker and parttime DJ (the Fish 95.5FM CLEVELAND-OH Go BROWNS)who recently gave up her church worker job becuase i was burned soo bad by what you describe in your book. I never thought the experience could be soo painful. I hope to pass this work of art on to other people in my church body not to mention friends of the church i recently left. I thank you for writing a book that in away is like me, my style of ministry and helps me articulate better what some of my issues are. This is a fabulous book and im delighted to have read it. Can't wait for the next installment.. or better yet bible study guide to go with... GOd's blessings to you and your ministry 8/13/2002 12:55 AM | Lori Lynn - CLEVELAND OHIO

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The open and honest examination of the institutional church is loooong overdue. I find Dave Burchett's modest proposals for a sinner sensitive church quite appropiate. 8/14/2002 7:49 AM | Irwin C. Gemlich

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Thank you for writing your book. 8/14/2002 2:26 PM | Brianna, OH

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Dave, you just came into our office, however, I really didn't meet you, but I am at the front desk. I had no idea you were the author of this book! How timely, how perfect! I just have finished your first chapter here, having heard about it from Dave Evans. I will be purchasing it if possible this afternoon, as I am leaving for an overseas holiday. 8/14/2002 3:28 PM | Theta Hall

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Hey I read your book and loved it! It is very true to our church. Thank you, Grant Haas 8/15/2002 1:21 PM | Grant Haas

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Dear Dave, Thanks for the boldness of your insight and your love for Jesus. Thanks for the display of your own frailty and humility before God. I did not feel like you were picking on the church you were saying church we have got to model Jesus to a lost and dying world. Thanks for your work for the kingdom. 8/16/2002 11:11 PM | Buddy Harris, Preacher FCC Longwood, FL

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Sounds great I will be buying the book!! 8/17/2002 11:59 AM | Jamie Saukkola

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I just finished your book-Awesome!!! I enjoyed it so much- The issues you discuss are the exact things that kept me from living for God for so many years!!! Now that I have come back to Him- I do not want to be a "bad christian" that keeps "good people" from knowing God, and your book has been very insightful and helpful! Thank You! 8/19/2002 1:52 PM | Faye Conner

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Dave--I heard part of your interview on WMBI and am looking forward to reading the sections on your website....then probably the entire book. I wholeheartedly agree with your "bad Christian" concept and can attest to being hurt by them and by being one at times. I recently heard Dan Allender speak about leading out of our char