Thanks to everyone who so graciously expressed condolences and offered prayers during my Mom’s illness and recent death. God continues to gently teach me as I begin to absorb that both my Mom and Dad are gone from this world. Several weeks ago my niece told me about a song by the group Diamond Rio. The song is called “God only cries for the living” and I have been visiting that tune pretty regularly recently. Here are some of the lyrics from the song.
God only cries for the living,
‘Cause it’s the living that are left to carry on.
That is a hard truth. The living are left with the financial and legal affairs. Disposing of personal items that generate tearful memories. And the living are left in a place that Scripture tells us is only a temporary dwelling place. Paul writes about our “dual citizenship” in his letter to the Philippians.
For, as I have often told you before and now say again even with tears, many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is on earthly things. But our citizenship is in heaven.
It was interesting to talk to the hospice nurses who cared for my Mom. One nurse said that it is nearly impossible to not believe in something beyond this world when you watch so many people die.
Everyone knows that we have a finite time on earth. I believe that there is more than just my 53 plus whatever years I will live here. So I must decide how to navigate how I live this life while being mindful of the next. There is a balance that is implied by the concept of dual citizenship. I remember a quote that some Christians are “so heavenly minded that they are no earthly good”. That is not what Paul is saying. Clearly we have a spiritual purpose in this life. Jesus gave us our purpose with these two items that He made clear are not just helpful guidelines…they are commandments.
“‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”
It reminds me of the line from the movie Bull Durham concerning the game of baseball. “”This is a very simple game. You throw the ball, you catch the ball, you hit the ball. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, sometimes it rains.” In many ways Christianity is a very simple faith that we have made incredibly legalistic and difficult. To paraphrase the line above. “You love the Lord your God. You love your neighbor. Sometimes it is easy. sometimes it is hard. Sometimes life rains on you.” I wonder how the body of Christ would look differently if we concentrated on those two simple commands? Would we would worry so much about the worship music style and the vestibule carpet color? As we concentrated on those two commands we would look forward to making the move to our heavenly home.
“Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me. There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? John 14 NLT|
The song from Diamond Rio echoes the belief that Jesus has gone ahead to prepare a better place.
An’ all the angels up in Heaven,
They’re not grieving because they’re gone.
There’s a smile on their faces,
‘Cause they’re in a better place…
I believe that my Mom is a better place. I love my life on this planet. I am not anxious to leave my family and friends. But I am not afraid. This lyric from the song by Diamond Rio portrays a powerful thought.
God only cries for the living,
‘Cause it’s the living that are so far from home.
That becomes more and more real to me as I get older. I have so many family and friends that have gone ahead to their eternal home. I miss them so much. But I rejoice for them because I am realizing that I am the one who is so far from home.
Charles Simon Victor E. Keith
my sincerest condolences to you. i lost my grandfather just recently and this song “God only cries for the living”- i heard it on the radio. it was dedicated to someone who lost a dear one too and i couldn’t help but think of my grandfather. i’m not afraid to die, what makes me worry is how i’d live without the people close to my heart. but the fact remains…the cruel truth that we’d all die and experience the pain of losing someone. it’s indeed difficult for us who are left to go on, but we must be reminded that our loved ones are in a better place. God can’t bear seeing us suffer. He tries to find ways to relieve the pain we are experiencing and the best way to permanently rid us of our struggle is to take us in the place he promised for all.
Mark Marsden
I find it hard to believe when atheists (my boss) say this life is all there is and after that nothing. Perhaps they have a better imagination than I. When I saw my Dad dead in the mortuary (morgue) and held his hand I just couldn’t believe that that was all there was of him. Where was his great soul?
Sissy B.
I’ve often thought about how simple it really it is but have never been able to write it as compelling as you. Thanks for being here to provide us all with your down to earth look at our almighty God
Steve Goss
Dave-
Some belated condolences, although they are about as useful now as last week.
Death is tougher on the living than the dead. At least for Christians.
Amy
I just want to say I thoroughly enjoy reading your thoughts. You make me think and examine myself and my actions and strive to be a better Christian. I loved what you said today about concentrating on loving God and our neighbor…how we tend to make it so much more complicated than that.
Thanks so much for the time you put into your blog. And I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. May God continue to comfort you and your family.
Amy
Joy
Once again you have said it so eloquently.