I have tried to avoid the whole Anna Nicole Smith tragedy that is dominating so much of TV “news”. But an ancillary story caught my eye. The article in the Dallas Morning News was titled “Smith joins ranks of Playmates dead before 50“. Apparently a disproportionate number of women who have posed in Playboy magazine have died tragically before the age of 50. Automobile accidents, drug overdoses, homicides, a plane crash — all have claimed the lives of Playmates. What caught my eye was a comment from a photographer for the magazine.
“It’s sad how many girls we’ve lost,” said Peter Gowland, who photographed a number of centerfolds for Playboy in the 1950s and 60s.
“It’s a curse to be beautiful,” Gowland said.
No, Mr.Gowland, it is a gift to be beautiful. The curse is young women being exploited for their beauty by self-centered men. The curse is believing that your significance and value is found in being a object of lust for selfish men. The curse is sin.
I know I sound like such an old fogey but pornography has become a significant and real problem in our culture. It is a problem for far too many Christian men. When I was a young man you had to go to some seedy, disgusting place to get pornography. Today I am ten seconds away from the whatever I want to download. In the interest of full disclosure I was a regular consumer of the magazine in question many years ago. I regret every cent I spent and every moment I invested in devaluing those women. As men who are serious about following Jesus we must hold one another accountable to not contribute to this demeaning industry. I bought the rationalization for awhile that this magazine was “classier” and had “good articles”. What a load of bovine excrement that argument was in retrospect. I know that many women see no issue in being a “model” for these magazines. That doesn’t change my responsibility to view them as souls created in the image of God for His Glory and not objects for my desires.
Jesus knew how men are wired. He knew that we cannot play with the fire of lust without eventually getting burned. Countless marriages have been ruined by this pernicious industry. Intimacy has been impacted because of unrealistic expectations. Countless women have been exploited and damaged. And that brings us back to the real curse. Sin.
Let’s call it by it’s name.
There is a cure. Paul prescribes the cure to this curse in his letter to the church at Rome.
When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners. Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. 8 But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son. So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.
No, it is not a curse to be beautiful. Or smart. Or talented. It is a curse to define yourself only by a temporal asset. You were created to be in fellowship with your Creator. Find that relationship and then beauty, intelligence, and talents become gifts to be used for God’s glory. Let’s review Paul’s incredible claim from above.
So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.
Sin is the curse. You can check out the cure here.
Karina Black
What pisses me off is the number of women who get involved in porn, or flash their boobies in the name of "empowerment."
I can see how they don’t think it’s degrading, but when it reduces a person to a visual image, or a bag of meat, that’s what "degrading" means.
I love looking at a beautiful woman. I love the human form in its grace and elegance. I love fleshy imperfect people! Again with the "fine lines," and I’m afraid the fine line between art and porn is so indiscernable it’s impossible to fully address: it’s all about the intent in looking.
A S Hodel
Well put. In a society where relationships and, ultimately, people are disposable based on personal pleasure, the deaths and troubled lives of these young women is the flower of an evil root hidden in our soil.
Awhile back I wrote a letter to our local newspaper on this subject in which I concluded, "People — other people — matter. As one writer put it, ‘Your attitude should be the same as Christ Jesus: … [Who] made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.’
"This, not pornographic iPods, should be our ideal of society."
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THANK YOU!! So nice to hear a man say it like it is instead of women never feeling like they’re heard. This has been on my mind today because the Telus phone company in Canada is coming under fire for offering downloads of porn on their cellphones for $3-4. Bad enough that it’s on computers, TV and magazines, but do guys have to have it in their pockets now? I don’t want my 20 year old daughter sitting next to a guy on the subway who’s lookin’ at this stuff on his cellphone. The reason Telus provides for their decision is that people can get worse through other companies. (And that justifies it how??) How sick have we become?
Vikki
You said:
Sin is the curse. You can check out the cure here.
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